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Writer: Jiangzu Meiliang

Yesterday a reader said to me, in his old circle, he could see many good articles and photos shared by readers, even inspiring chicken soup, made him want to collect. But now, most of the content in his circle is advertisements from merchants, such as 'one day's income is five thousand, one month buys a set of houses' exaggerated claims and unreliable marketing slogans, so he rarely looks at his circle anymore.

I agree with him. It's okay for merchants to post advertisements in the circle, but 'everything is for money' really makes people feel that everything is superficial, and lacks human warmth.

Truly noble women will never post about problems without a reason. Instead, besides the advertisements from merchants, there are actually three types of content that people hate and find low if they post frequently. Let's avoid them.

1. Posting selfies every day reveals narcissism and underlying insecurity.

A reader complained to me that she has a female friend in her circle who posts selfies constantly. She seems to be obsessed with beauty enhancement, changing three sets of clothes every day, taking photos everywhere, but her appearance is not particularly outstanding. Even after excessive beauty enhancement and lighting, she still looks unattractive. However, she continues to post, hoping to improve her appearance. Unknowingly, this exposes her insecurity.

Seeing her indescribable appearance, she couldn't help but spit out. Finally, she could no longer bear it and blocked her.

Author Shi said in 'Dance of the Vampires':

'Truly noble ladies never boast about what they possess; they don't tell others what books they've read, where they've been, how many clothes they own, or what jewelry they've bought, because they don't have a sense of inferiority.'

Conversely, those who frequently post their selfies often do so because they are insecure and want to gain more satisfaction. If truly confident women don't need to constantly seek validation through posts, because they are self-sufficient and happy.

2. Posting feelings frequently reveals a narrow perspective.

Eating a meal and posting a selfie, complaining about the weather also posts a selfie, it's okay if it's just a little bit, the key is that some people want to pour out their sadness in selfies every time.

A reader told me that she knows a woman who is a full-time wife for three years. Her husband is very successful in his career, but he is 'harmonious' but not 'compatible' with her. Her children's grades are very poor, but she doesn't care much. She lives in a 'golden years' mentality. Until one day, her husband's infidelity was exposed, she realized that her husband was not 'harmonious' with her.

But she had already worked for three years, and her expertise had long been lost. It was difficult to return to her career, so she could only let go of her career and focus on her husband's affairs. However, she couldn't let go of her resentment, and her husband divorced her. She then staged a sad scene in her circle.

Life is not easy for everyone, and everyone has their own difficulties. But you must keep moving forward, not always stuck in the sadness of the past. This is the maturity of an adult.

However, this woman doesn't know it. She cries and screams every day, as if the whole world is against her. She is a ''.

The circle is a communication link, but not a trash can for you to dump your emotions.

It's really not good to post three or more lines of content every day. In fact, it's low and childish.

Truly noble women never post about minor problems. Because they have seen the world and are rich and happy, so really, those women who don't post these three types of content are truly high-quality and reliable.3. Posting work frequently often reveals a lack of happiness in family life.

Meiliang doesn't reject others from posting in the circle. It's okay to take a look sometimes. It's also fun.

It's good if everyone doesn't post in the circle, otherwise WeChat will have no meaning!

But Meiliang is sensitive to those who constantly post work achievements.

Meiliang's circle has a colleague, who often posts like this, some are immersed in books, some are at midnight writing articles, some are sharing case analysis.

Some are working diligently, and some are simply 'case-solving.'

Work is work, and life is life. They shouldn't be one or the other.

If a person only has work and doesn't have a life, then that person is just a walking machine. What's the point of living?

So Meiliang thinks that work and life should both have, and shouldn't focus on one aspect.

My colleague used to be in a marriage, but because she was too obsessed with her career, she neglected her marriage, and finally divorced. Later, she re-entered marriage, but she still encountered the same problems. Although she wanted to find him, it was difficult.

So when she couldn't go to work, she had nothing to do, so she always relied on work to accompany her.

Of course, if someone wants to, and doesn't affect others, it's okay for her to post, but Meiliang thinks that if you want to enter marriage, you should give your love a chance, give emotions a chance to cultivate, if you don't want to marry, give yourself a chance, give life a chance.

If you always reinforce your sense of accomplishment through work, then you are ignoring your emotional needs, marriage needs, and life needs. It's really not good to be so tense.

Meiliang thinks that the circle is a place to express your inner feelings, whether it's big or small, love and hate, excitement and sadness, can be posted. It's also a private notebook, which can be flipped through in old age.

Or you have some urgent matters, you can also seek help from 'the all-powerful circle'—people who care about you will proactively help you, will you? People who don't care about you will only feel that you're like a ',' making people disgusted.

Ultimately, the reason you're obsessed with suffering is because your perspective is too narrow, your eyes only see your husband, not yourself, not your dreams, not your hopes, thinking that after being betrayed, the world will collapse. You must be self-reliant and capable of saving yourself.

Meiliang thinks that the circle is a communication link, not a trash can for your emotions. Really suffering doesn't need to be plastered all over the circle, it's better to let it go.

Lost a man, what's the big deal? Lost a marriage, what's the big deal? You still have a life, you still have yourself, you have a future.

​If you've made a mistake by tying yourself to a man, then now, learn from your mistakes and grow stronger, it's not something to regret.

In the end, the reason you're obsessed with suffering is because your perspective is too narrow, your eyes only see your husband, not yourself, not your dreams, not your hopes, thinking that after being betrayed, the world will collapse. You must be self-reliant and capable of saving yourself.

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