In this society, everyone is realistic, and no one can rely on others all the time. You must learn to be strong and become your own support. When you are prosperous, there will be a group of people surrounding you. But when you are down and out, these people will make every effort to distance themselves from you, fearing that their interests will be damaged.

At this time, you will have a sudden realization. Those so-called friends are nothing but hypocritical people. There has never been a sense of friendship in their hearts, they just thought that they could obtain some benefits by being with you, or help you in some things.

As the saying goes: 'It's better to have many friends,' which is not entirely correct. Some friends are friends, and some friends are just superficial.

One, strength is your best belief

Gorky said: 'Even a small restraint can make a person stronger.'

Famous physicist Stephen Hawking was already engaged in physics and astronomy at the age of 13 and 14. At the age of 17, he still studied at Oxford University, and after graduating, he continued his doctoral studies at Cambridge University. Shortly thereafter, he discovered that he had multiple sclerosis, which caused muscle atrophy.

Initially, he wanted to give up research. But after considering it several times, he still regained confidence and stood up from the setback, bravely facing the current difficulties and continuing to devote himself to research.

In the 1970s, he collaborated with Penrose to prove the famous Hawking singularity theorem, and they jointly won the Wolf Prize. He also discovered the laws of black holes and the reasons for their disappearance.

In the 1980s, he began to study cosmology. At this time, his physical condition had already deteriorated, and he could no longer speak, and his whole body was paralyzed. He needed a computer and a language synthesizer to speak and write.

Although his life is considered unlucky by others, his scientific achievements are all achieved after his body is injured by illness. His perseverance is worth learning. When facing various difficulties, he can maintain a firm will and challenge diseases to create one miracle after another.

Two, independence is your greatest backing

Napoleon said: 'It is only by relying on yourself that you can survive.'

Small Hui, a former friend, didn't listen to her parents' objections and insisted on marrying her boyfriend. But after a happy life of only a few years, she divorced her husband. They had two children, and the divorce resulted in the children being separated.

Although Small Hui was young, she was always an independent person. After divorcing her husband, she didn't return to her husband's family or the children, but worked hard to support herself and her children. I once advised her: 'Let the children live with their grandparents and let them help take care of the children, and you can send money to them every month.'

But she said, 'Since the road is chosen by myself, I cannot regret it, I should take responsibility for my own mistakes, and I should make up for it.' She never complained about life's unfairness, just worked hard to give her children a better life.

During the day, she sent her children to kindergarten. In the evening, after getting off work, she went to pick up her children. Although life was tiring, she would see her children's lovely smiles with every passing day, as if all her fatigue would dissipate with the wind.

Small Hui didn't lose confidence because she was separated from her husband and lost the confidence to live her life. Her independent and strong heart knew what she should do at the moment, and she knew that for her children, she should also work hard and make money without relying on anyone.

Although it's difficult to live independently, a life without independence will be even more difficult. Perhaps without those who can rely on, he will not be able to survive in this society.

Therefore, to not rely on others, independence is your greatest backing.

Three, learning is the best investment for you

Li Zhao once said: 'Knowledge is the lamp that guides people to the realm of light and truth. Ignorance is the obstacle to reaching the realm of light and truth, which is the obstacle to human development.'

Everyone in this society is difficult, if you want to have a better life, we must learn, strengthen our abilities, and improve our vision.

Why we lack security in life is because of our own ability and knowledge are not enough. We often know how to invest in things outside of ourselves, but we ignore investing in ourselves.

Learning is not an easy thing. We must put time and energy into it. Although it is difficult, we must try our best to overcome it. As someone says: 'Live until you are old, learn until you are old.'

If you don't follow the pace of the times to learn, you will eventually be abandoned by the times.

Therefore, no matter what situation, don't be too reliant on others. Through continuous effort, you can complete it yourself. Although the process is tiring, the joy of success will be very moving.