Ask Yourself: Are You Someone Who Fears Success?
We may have always been defined within a narrow space. Numerous bonuses, successful speeches, outstanding task completions may all be regarded as rare successes. When viewed over the long river of life, even if you consider these achievements significant, they may be minimal. Instead of enjoying each success, we should focus on reflecting and striving, forgetting success, and achieving greater success.
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Do you deserve success?
Success is an inevitable experience for everyone in their lifetime.
Getting a top rank in elementary school, achieving some success in your career, a successful short-term project, and a long-term pursuit of love and career achievements—all of these can be considered success.
Even if a person is always full of self-doubt, self-deprecation, and self-denial, and lives in anxiety, fear, and pessimism, and feels a negative outlook on the times and environment, they will still have some small successes and happy things in their lives.
You might recently find yourself:
What are the things you're most proud, happy, proud, and delighted about in your recent life?
Have you achieved a goal, proving yourself, and experiencing a small success? This is something worth being happy about. However, not everyone can fully enjoy this feeling of success.
Because the cost of success is too great.
Experiencing success brings joy, value, significance, and something special—which violates the subconscious belief that 'I've always been a failure,' 'I'm just an ordinary person,' and 'I'm not that special.'
For some people,It's harder to enjoy the joy of success than to experience the disappointment of failure.
When you fail, you can just motivate yourself, encourage yourself, and feel like you're 'unstoppable,' 'strong,' and 'a fighter.' But if he succeeds, he starts to rejoice, which triggers his subconscious fear and discomfort, and he can't bear it.
At this time, his subconscious wants to neutralize this joy,
Generally, there are 4 ways to make people unhappy through success.
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My success has nothing to do with me
A person's success is closely related to external and uncontrollable factors.
For example, the manned rocket flying into space, the US-China trade war, these are big events. How can we make them small things? Either put them into the long river of history, or look at them from the perspective of the Milky Way, where the earth is insignificant.
How can a person successfully erase the feeling of success?
More simply, the way to understand is:
A person's greatest joy is not from their parents.
People can constantly surpass their parents in achievements, and be better than their parents in behavior. But the feeling of achievement is not able to exceed their parents. Once a person experiences exceeding feeling, his subconscious will be punished. To avoid punishment, the subconscious must take some measures to reduce joy.
How to do this?
For example:
Getting first place is just luck. If you keep getting first place, you're really a true master. If you get first place, don't be proud, there are still others in the school, there are still others in the class, there are still others in the country!
You have to look at yourself, you know?
It's better to criticize yourself and then not actTreating yourself with compassion is the key to happiness
Wishing you can always be proud of yourself.
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