#1On my part, I always disliked others crying in front of me, which would leave me at a loss.Comfort, always felt so flimsy, except for 'you shouldn't cry,' I couldn't say anything else. Do nothing? Still feels too cold, seeing others in pain, I should do something, right?The result is often I make some embarrassing things, they cry even more heartbroken, and I complain to myself, 'Why are you crying?' I don't understand what's so sad.I became composed, feeling like I wasn't a good person.Fortunately, everyone is an adult, adults don't cry easily. Those crying adults may be weak, sometimes I think so.But children, no matter how they are, children can cry at will, without worrying about others' gazes.Sometimes I envy, it's really good to cry whenever you want, without having to worry about it.Sometimes I'm annoyed, children crying are so annoying, my head is about to explode. Especially now that I'm getting older and there are more and more children at home, during the New Year and holidays, the family gatherings are like a playground, children cry as soon as they have any conflict or unhappiness.In this situation, what actions should adults take becomes a very interesting thing.I have two nephews and a niece, all around ten years old. #2Before, we had a small family gathering, three children cried because they quarreled over a toy, and then they all cried.Originally, this is just a toy distribution problem in my eyes, I didn't take it seriously. Especially the year before last, my son broke my limited edition hand-painted, I decided to observe everything done by children, no matter what.So when I see children at home crying, I remain impassive.Of course, how to educate crying children, our family has split into several factions, there is a violent faction, such as my elder brother.The older brother's parents were not around, so the elder brother became the guardian. He would hit them when they cried, 'Why are you crying?' The more they cried, the harder he hit them.At first, the big boy cried more severely, and then he stopped crying.Like a timid little lamb, curled up in the corner, muttering and mumbling in a dirty word.'Where did you learn such words?' The big brother asked.'From you!'The big brother saw this and slapped him again, and then he completely stopped crying. ”The big brother was proud, 'Children need to be beaten.'Everyone agreed, and a cousin said, 'Now we don't do, I don't agree, we were beaten up when we were kids, why should we pamper these children?'The big brother still felt proud: 'That's right, I beat you when you were young, without my education, you can be so successful now.'Everyone was happy, and a cheerful atmosphere filled the air. #3The violent faction announced their victory in the child's complete silence.There was also a gentle faction. The younger brother's parents are both teachers, they don't agree with the violent faction.The wife of the older brother's family, a Chinese teacher, said, 'It's not right to hit children, we should love children.'The brother's physics teacher said, 'Sometimes I really want to hit my students.'They would coax them with sugar, or buy them action figures, or play games with them. But they've used this method too much, and the little boy doesn't respond to it, so I just let them go.He looked like he wasn't affected at all, like he always had a dignified and solemn expression. When he did that, I felt a stir,I am familiar with this situation, translated into my heart is,'Why do your parents quarrel with you?' The remaining faction is my second cousin's family, which is a bit weird, I don't know how to describe it, let's just call it the 'no heart and no soul' faction.The little girl cried because her parents didn't hug her or comfort her, they just hit her.She just cried for a while, then stopped crying.Then the second cousin's brother asked her what happened, and the little girl said they were fighting over her toys, and the second cousin's brother said, 'Fighting over toys is not right, but there is only one toy, what should we do?' ”'Why did your parents scold you?'The little girl said, 'Give them the toys.'After saying that, she went upstairs to watchand didn't cry, as if nothing had happened, A happy family, I was surprised.The ending is to make children stop crying, and the second cousin's operation was the most 'skillful', basically didn't do anything, and solved the problem. He even explained his educational philosophy to us, roughly, 'When we were born, we can't speak, when we're thirsty, hungry, or uncomfortable, we cry to ask for help, and adults need to care and love us.'From a certain point of view, children crying is a sign that they trust us, and we shouldn't ignore it.”#4This statement really changed my view of crying children, and also changed my view of those who cry in front of others. Unfalsely, I didn't say it,[email protected]#5#6“”
