The Highest Respect

Sept. 1, 2025, 4:13 p.m. Essays

Someone on Zhihu asked: What is a person with cultivation like?

The highest-rated answer is:On his face and in his heart, he was carved with the word ‘respect’.

From the elders and friends above, to the younger generation and children below, he would treat them with a respectful attitude, never elevating himself or belittling others.

In life, one will encounter many people, there is no need to divide each other’s existence.

Instead, those who can get a sense of superiority when interacting with others can be called foolish. Being a person is just such a matter.

A good person understands respect for others.

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Chancellor Xie Lan once visited Mount Wutai.

Entering the temple, the abbot looked at him, seeing that he was generally dignified, he said, ‘Sit,’ and then called out ‘Tea,’ meaning to offer tea water casually.

Hearing that the guest was a Beijing official, the abbot stood up respectfully and immediately took Xie Lan into the inner hall, changing his words to: ‘Please sit, brew tea.’

After further conversation, it was learned that Xie Lan was a Minister of Rites, the abbot humbly took Xie Lan into the meditation room and awkwardly said: ‘Please sit, brew tea.’

Xie Lan left, and the abbot took out a paper and pen, insisting that Xie Lan leave a calligraphy, to honor the Zen temple.

You could see Xie Lan and Yan Yueli, writing such a couplet: ‘Sit, please sit, please sit; Tea, brew tea, brew good tea.’

The abbot was ashamed and embarrassed.

There is a saying:Others respect you not because you are outstanding, but because you are outstanding.

This may be a thunderclap for many people, but when you look back, it is indeed the case:

When a person does not come into contact with familiar people, he will unconsciously elevate himself and enjoy the fact that others treat him with respect.

And a good person will never think like this.

The most taboo thing for a person is to have too much status.

Many people care about whether they are respectable, in order to be able to lift their heads in the eyes of others, or to show their identity.

Therefore, these people are used to comparing people based on identity.

The higher the status, the more subservient; the lower the status, the more dog-eyed.

In 1966, the earthquake in Xingtai, Premier Zhou Enlai rushed to the disaster area.

A village elder poured a bowl of water for the Premier, but the bowl was smeared with cornmeal, which looked very dirty. The accompanying doctor was about to stop him, but Premier Zhou took the bowl and drank it in one gulp. This moved everyone present.

The value of a person is not in how high his status is, but in his consistent and respectful treatment of others.

Those who think they are dignified are not worthy of respect.

Zhuge Liang said: ‘Do not look down on people who are high in status.’

A person who uses status to judge is already lost.

Respect is a kind of cultivation.

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Carnegie, a master of interpersonal relations, said: ‘Don’t express respect for other people’s opinions, especially don’t say: ‘You are wrong!’’

During a dinner at home, Lu Xun’s son, Hai Ying, was present.

When eating fish dumplings, guests all praised their freshness and deliciousness, while Hai Ying said: ‘The fish dumplings are sour!’

Lu Xun heard this and immediately scolded his son for being impolite and not following rules.

Seeing his embarrassed son being scolded, Lu Xun tasted the fish dumplings that had bitten his son, and they were indeed not fresh.

People are used to being in a state of self-affirmation, stubborn and unyielding.

True respect is not social etiquette, but recognition and understanding of people, it is also a rare virtue.

Respecting people is to respect yourself.

Those who win in life often have a kind and generous character.

At least when you come into contact with them, you won’t feel awkward, the atmosphere is always warm.

This is a charisma, it is also an irreplaceable personality charm.

A truly enlightened person knows that respecting people is to respect himself, respecting others is respecting himself.

When doing things, remember: ‘Do not look down on people who are low in status.’

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