Not Reasoning, But Being Assertive is the Best Emotional Intelligence

Highly emotional people definitely have empathy, which is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.

When talking about interpersonal relationships, Casey Cai Yong said:

Interpersonal relationships are about discovering the boundaries that allow people to continue interacting with each other.

If you never explore those boundaries, you'll say you're a straight shooter, unable to tolerate certain things, and that's a lack of empathy.

This is self-introduction, not an interpersonal relationship.

Just like knowing someone is sensitive and still speaking bluntly, even saying it's just 'being too honest or straightforward,' is a sign of lacking empathy.

Empathy is a core skill of emotional intelligence,

Daniel Goleman, the 'father of emotional intelligence,' said:

Empathy is a core skill of emotional intelligence, and it's a naturally human ability that has often been underestimated.

Especially when you're right, the way you handle things can reveal how high your empathy is.

If you're unwilling to show empathy, even if you're right, people will avoid you and won't respect you.

Many people like to stand at a moral high ground and criticize others, such as the common 'keyboard warriors' on the internet, who think they're particularly brilliant and always leave guiding remarks.

It's like the world is at their feet, and if they catch you wrong, they'll lecture you even more.

Not only the person being lectured, but others also feel that the person's emotional intelligence is low.

Making people feel comfortable is more effective than presenting logical arguments.

People often say that the lowest emotional intelligence is possessed by those who love to talk about logic.

Constantly focusing on right and wrong and arguing for logic can make interpersonal relationships even more rigid.

Everyone has different reasons in their minds, and there's no fixed standard to measure them by.

Everyone is standing at their own perspective and position when looking at things, and it's 'logical' for them.

There's no 'who is right and wrong' – if you want to argue, it's about who uses stronger words and argues more logically.

These people who constantly talk about logic often have poor relationships with people and are avoided by everyone, thinking: 'I can't handle it, and I always avoid it!'

Next time you encounter a dispute, you don't want to talk to them because you can only say a lot of angry words.

Instead of talking about logic, try empathy.

Simply knowing logic can't move people.

Try to think from the other person's perspective, understand their thoughts and feelings, and then you can say words that influence them.

Find the flaws in their thinking logic and then gently explain it from their perspective to quickly end the ideological confrontation.

If you're only standing on your own position and stubbornly insisting, even if you speak louder, it will sound illogical to the other person.

Empathy is not about compromise, it's about achieving a win-win result.

People who love to talk about logic will give the other person a defensive psychology, making them feel they've done something wrong and that they're not as good as you, so they need to listen to you explain it.

Understanding empathy allows you to cross the differences between people and enter their minds.

Don't talk about logic with anyone, interpersonal relationships are about feelings.

When people feel comfortable, they'll open their ears and you can achieve your goals.

This applies to families and workplaces alike.