Guidance: Masato once said in Crazy Competition: 'As time passes, we will all eventually forgive those who have hurt us.'Kang Yige immediately took over the topic: 'That's not forgiveness, that's letting it go.'

This is my virtue of not dwelling on grievances, and it's out of self-care. Letting go isn't about forgiving the other person's harm, but it's for myself to move forward with a lighter load.

When my younger sister got married, I was just starting my job and couldn't take leave to attend her wedding. I just knew her husband was working in a restaurant and they had only been married for a year.

I initially thought that two people spending a year together was also considered familiar, and life should be pretty good. But when my younger sister came home with a newborn baby, we realized her husband was just a spoiled mama's boy. My younger sister's mother-in-law instigated the husband to beat my sister when they were married for less than a month.

It was said that women enjoy a 'six-month empress life' during pregnancy. My younger sister had to endure the suffering of her mother-in-law, washing, cooking and doing all the housework, and she also had to endure her husband's occasional beatings. It's a miracle that she gave birth to a healthy child.

When my younger sister came home with her baby, I happened to quit my job to take care of myself. Seeing the little baby and my exhausted younger sister, I really wanted to take a group of brothers and sisters to attack her husband's house.

In the end, we didn't have any quarrels with her husband's family. My younger sister gave birth to a daughter, and her mother-in-law didn't want to keep her. My younger sister took her baby and left, ending that nightmare marriage.

Accepting the imperfections of the past, changing your attitude, and a second marriage can also lead to happiness.

'Without wind and rain, how can you see the rainbow.'

Second marriage to happiness, like Jia Jingwen, a single mother, is a great example.

My younger sister was fortunately remarried and married to happiness, which also gave me a real example, letting me believe again that leaving the wrong person is just to meet the right person, and together create happiness, experience happiness, and witness happiness.

My younger sister remarried when she was three years old, and I was heartbroken and unemployed. I had plenty of time to go to her and her new husband to hold a small and warm wedding.

Her husband was her classmate in high school and her partner in a barbecue shop.

Running a barbecue shop is really tiring. In the middle of the day, you string up skewers, make various ingredients, and operate a makeshift stall until three or four in the morning. During festivals, working through the night is common.

But when I saw my younger sister, I didn't look as tired as before, but my skin was darker, which made me look healthier and full of hope. It's good to have someone around to take care of you.

Before, my younger sister thought she had no income and was a burden to the family, willing to endure and compromise herself.

Often, what traps us is not the environment we are in, or the marriage itself, but our own inner fear – afraid of the many eyes around, afraid of the uncertainty of the future, and afraid of not being able to break out of our familiar circles. We are afraid of all the obstacles we can think of...

In fact, these are just the cages we create for ourselves, and we imprison ourselves in this familiar circle. Wait until you truly break free, and you'll find the sky is still blue, and people are still friendly. This society is still full of sunshine and care.

Summary

Marriage is just a part of life. Women in marriage, if they want to live a colorful life, don't waste all their energy on family. Investing your perspective on marriage is better for both yourself and your family. Economist Xue Zhihong said:

'Marriage is like running a family business. Both parties should put in their own resources to start a business. The resources offered by men and women are different, but their value is equal.'

If your value in marriage is constantly 'killing the price' and there's no chance to rebound, then it's time to stop losses.

Learn from failures and successful experiences, choose a better stock, and start again. You can earn a lot of happiness and money.

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