My View of Love Isn't Because I Have High Standards, But Rather About Clearly Identifying What I Lack.
Wen: Sifeng Ren
As an unmarried, late-blooming bachelor, my view of love is based on what my friends say, such as 'high standards' or 'I prefer being single'! But I don't agree with those notions.
Personally, I believe love is just a part of life; it's determined by the living environment, not love that restricts life. Love can be present or absent, but life must continue. Let's talk about my views!
One, love is a matter of chance, not force!
As a rural worker raised in the countryside, I have no support, and my life depends entirely on myself—living to survive. When it comes to love, I still believe it's a matter of chance. Love should be pure and white, life needs rationality, not pursuing and attacking. If you truly meet someone you love, let the other person willingly love you, respect each other, and cultivate together. That way, neither party will get too tired and the love will be more solid and long-lasting.
Two, love is equal, understanding!
Love should be equal, involving mutual understanding, tolerance, and learning from each other. It's about meeting needs and developing together. Love requires sincerity, practicality, and responsibility. It's a responsibility towards marriage, family, parents, children, friends, and loved ones—not deliberate concealment, harsh demands, or using deception to trick someone into loving you. Such love, even if passionate and intense, will only lead to exhaustion and a feeling of being unhappy and unsustainable.
Three, love is jointly managed, maintained!
Love should be strong and persistent, requiring mutual strong and deep feelings. Love is jointly maintained, ensuring the stability and longevity of both parties. It's about mutual contribution and appreciation, not relying solely on one person's efforts, letting the other enjoy the happiness of love, nor is it relying solely on one person's selfless dedication to support a love life. Such love is exhausting and unstable, and it's better not to have had it!
Four, love is faithful!
Love is faithfulness—one-minded and willing. It's about mutual trust and cultivating a love between two people, not guessing, being indecisive, and switching between partners. Enjoying happiness is exhausting and leads to a weary life.
As a rural, late-blooming bachelor, I don't have the right to demand too much love. But I should be full of hope for life and have rational views on love, knowing what I want. Not casually going into a relationship or accepting love—it should be believing in love for the sake of marriage. That's my view of love!
